I don’t know about you, but I’m pretty terrible at keeping my New Year’s resolutions. I make a really good effort for a few weeks but then I neglect one, and then two, and before you know it, I’ve broken every single one.
I find quotes and mantras to be especially motivational, and I tend to go back to these much more often than I do my own notes or aspirations. I’ve decided to try something new this year. Instead of making a half-hearted attempt at keeping my own resolutions, I’m going to turn some of the wise words of a few feminist favorites into mantras to help me kick ass in 2016.
- It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry for. – Amy Poehler, Yes Please
Women are expected to apologize way too much. We don’t always have to apologize for being loud or selfish or smart or outspoken. 2016 is as good of a time as any to start unlearning this awful habit.
- Work hard, know your shit, show your shit, and then feel entitled. – Mindy Kaling, on confidence, Why Not Me?
It’s okay to be confident. It’s okay to be smart and show off your smarts and feel damn good about it.
3. I think everyone wants women to always be together and cute and likeable and warm and fuzzy…. But I like that they explore the complexity of what it means to be a woman — which is not always likeable, not always kind. We’re a beautiful mess sometimes. – Viola Davis, on playing Annalise Keating in How To Get Away With Murder
Women don’t always have to be perfect. Embrace being a beautiful mess.
- When a woman screams, it doesn’t mean that she’s having a meltdown or she’s going through menopause. It means she’s fucking pissed off! – Mary McDonnell
News alert: women have feelings, and sometimes that feeling is anger. Own it.
- I am a woman with thoughts and questions and shit to say. I say if I’m beautiful. I say if I’m strong. You will not determine my story — I will. I will speak and share and fuck and love and I will never apologize to the frightened millions who resent that they never had it in them to do it. – Amy SchumerControversial though she may be, Amy Schumer is not afraid to call it like she sees it. She acknowledges that she’s a flawed woman and, like Amy Poehler, she’s not going to apologise about it. It’s okay to be ourselves.
- Do not bring people into your life who weigh you down. And trust your instincts. Good relationships feel good. They feel right. They don’t hurt. – Michelle Obama
There’s something to be said about surrounding yourself with positive people.
- Document the moments you feel most in love with yourself – what you’re wearing, who you’re around, what you’re doing. Recreate and repeat. – Warsan Shire
Loving yourself is hugely important, and this is something a lot of people struggle with. Give it a try in 2016. Start with loving you.
What are your feminist mantras for the new year?